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Well I guess I'm not alone in my belief that 2010 will be a year of positive change. And no, I don't believe that the changing of the Western calendar means an automatic fresh start. The change I feel coming is personal, and I believe the seedling sprouted, unnoticed, about three months ago. Some flaws were brought to light that I didn't realize were holding me back, such as the fear of showing my imperfections to you, and a heretofore unrecognized self-centeredness.
That second one is sort of a surprise, because my life has revolved around doing what others want of me. It's not conceit, but rather like a hard shell I've developed as a way to cope with feeling put upon all the time. It's made of some impervious substance which keeps close the little I have to call my own: things, attitudes, friends. I'm greedy and grasping and I don't like it. Things can't escape, but neither can they come in. I can't share what I have for fear of losing it, and I can't receive from others because I'm so balled up inside my shell. Though it's still pretty new, this realization, I hope to work on it throughout the year. I feel it has the potential to change my life. I want to be a giver, and right now I'm not.
In some ways I feel like I need somebody to guide me in this, tell me when I should be emoting with people and when I should be silent. One reason I dislike being demonstrative is that I often seem to get these mixed up, and so I find it safer just not to say anything at all. And somehow it has become the most unforgivable sin, to cause discomfort in others with my inappropriateness.
The fear of showing my imperfections, is something I've known about for a while, and is probably related to the self-centeredness in some way. My "Thoughts From the Treadmill" posts, as well as posting some less-than-perfect photos, were an exercise in releasing the fear. I've also been editing these posts less, and it drives me crazy that it shows. But I think our imperfections make us accessible (up to a point) and by never going out of the house without makeup, for instance, I might be putting out a better-than-you vibe, turning some people off. I have to allow others to see my vulnerabilities, as I wish fervently to see theirs.
What do you think?